well people ask you lot for computor assistance, so why not tap into the acumulated aeons of parenthood on the forum?
N°1 daughter is 8.
She came home from school yesterday & we had a conversation that went like this
N°1: "Papa, my friend ******* 's parents dont live together any more & she told me all about the pet cat that her dad gave her, but she doesn't like him cos he hurts her..."
Me: "she should take it to get it's claws clipped at the vets"
Me: "the cat, she doesn't like it cos it scratches her right?"
N°1" Nooo, it's her dad she doesn't like going to visit..."
N°1 " he does stuff that she doesn't like."
Me: in my head "AOOOGAH! AOOOGAH! back off! change the subject! dive dive dive!"
I'll spare you the details of how deftly I managed to change the subect...
Talking with wifey later, we decided that we MUST mention this to her teacher. Wifey did so this morning & it appears that they know about the problem & the social services are "in the process" of doing something about it.
meanwhile, back at the moon ranch, we have to decide exactly how to deal with this, we obviously now need to address the subject, tell her that it's not normal or acceptable, that love is a good thing but that boys & girls of her age must wait untill they're older & that grown ups are absolutely NOT allowed to do touchy feely things with children. This much is clear. However, we don't want to jump the gun & tell her stuff she doesn't need to (or shouldn't yet) know. We also don't want to make a big thing out of it & keep going on about it so's that she gets paranoid or scared all the time.
Any opinions, ideas, pointers, references, authorities, large brown anvelopes full of money etc etc gratefully accepted. I'm somewhat out of my depth here. I know that lots of you have already brought up children (mostly successfully...) how did you deal with the "sex" thing?